●对孩(hai)子要放(fang)手
现在不少成功的(de)(de)(de)企业家(jia),他们(men)(men)有(you)(you)一(yi)(yi)个共同点。那就(jiu)是他们(men)(men)的(de)(de)(de)知(zhi)人善用,能让部属各尽(jin)所(suo)能,充分发挥(hui)其才智。我认识一(yi)(yi)家(jia)大电器公(gong)司(si)的(de)(de)(de)董事(shi)长,他在谈到人才问题时(shi),曾说过:“我对一(yi)(yi)经(jing)任命的(de)(de)(de)部属,就(jiu)放手让他们(men)(men)施展才干,有(you)(you)权(quan)处理管辖的(de)(de)(de)一(yi)(yi)切工(gong)作,即使有(you)(you)所(suo)差(cha)错,也不横加指责;因为只要工(gong)作,错误是难免的(de)(de)(de)。出了错误,他们(men)(men)自(zi)己必然会(hui)(hui)首先发现,因而也会(hui)(hui)自(zi)觉地反省检查,以求改(gai)进。”
这是因为(wei)(wei)一个人一旦(dan)被委(wei)以重(zhong)任,一定会全(quan)力以赴,以回报上级对他(ta)的信(xin)任。俗话说(shuo):“土为(wei)(wei)知己者(zhe)死!”因而在工作(zuo)中(zhong)如果遭遇什(shen)么困(kun)难,也(ye)会凭着(zhe)一己智慧的判(pan)断,解决问题。这种信(xin)赖(lai)并放手(shou)让下(xia)属发挥潜(qian)能的原则,也(ye)可供父(fu)母教育养孩(hai)子(zi)时参考。
于(yu)今,家长(zhang)都(dou)要给(ji)孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)一些零(ling)(ling)(ling)用(yong)(yong)钱(qian)(qian)(qian)(qian)。但是(shi)(shi)当(dang)孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)拿(na)了属于(yu)他(ta)的(de)零(ling)(ling)(ling)用(yong)(yong)钱(qian)(qian)(qian)(qian)买(mai)(mai)了他(ta)自(zi)己喜欢的(de)东(dong)西时(shi),父母却又常不(bu)满意(yi),而加以责怪:“我(wo)给(ji)你零(ling)(ling)(ling)用(yong)(yong)钱(qian)(qian)(qian)(qian),不(bu)是(shi)(shi)要你购买(mai)(mai)这(zhei)种无(wu)用(yong)(yong)的(de)东(dong)西!”这(zhei)种干(gan)涉其实是(shi)(shi)不(bu)合理的(de)。首先,既(ji)然(ran)是(shi)(shi)给(ji)孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)的(de)零(ling)(ling)(ling)用(yong)(yong)钱(qian)(qian)(qian)(qian),他(ta)当(dang)然(ran)有(you)(you)(you)权选择买(mai)(mai)什么东(dong)西;其次(ci),所谓有(you)(you)(you)用(yong)(yong)无(wu)用(yong)(yong),有(you)(you)(you)时(shi)并(bing)无(wu)客观(guan)标(biao)准。孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)既(ji)然(ran)掏钱(qian)(qian)(qian)(qian)买(mai)(mai)它,肯定是(shi)(shi)认为有(you)(you)(you)用(yong)(yong)。何况大人(ren)的(de)看(kan)法和(he)孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)的(de)判断(duan)有(you)(you)(you)时(shi)是(shi)(shi)截(jie)然(ran)不(bu)同的(de)。所以在(zai)零(ling)(ling)(ling)用(yong)(yong)钱(qian)(qian)(qian)(qian)的(de)使用(yong)(yong)上,大人(ren)应该放手任孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)自(zi)由(you),这(zhei)样也可养成(cheng)孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)的(de)独立(li)判断(duan)能力和(he)独立(li)自(zi)主精神。当(dang)然(ran),孩(hai)子(zi)(zi)(zi)拿(na)了零(ling)(ling)(ling)用(yong)(yong)钱(qian)(qian)(qian)(qian)去作不(bu)正当(dang)的(de)事情,那就另当(dang)别(bie)论了。
如果(guo)不是零用(yong)钱(qian),而是孩(hai)子(zi)买书或文(wen)具的(de)钱(qian),孩(hai)子(zi)自作主(zhu)张买了别(bie)的(de)或零食,那就(jiu)需要分析,弄明原委,再(zai)加以教育,以养成孩(hai)子(zi)良好的(de)习惯。
当然,给(ji)予孩(hai)子零用钱时,必要(yao)注意。一是(shi)(shi)不(bu)能过(guo)多,二是(shi)(shi)要(yao)在(zai)花(hua)(hua)钱上从小进行节俭的教育。现(xian)在(zai)有些父(fu)母大(da)把大(da)把地(di)给(ji)孩(hai)子零用钱,结(jie)果造成孩(hai)子乱花(hua)(hua)钱的恶(e)习,以致荒废学(xue)业(ye)。这当然与我(wo)前面讲的放手是(shi)(shi)截然不(bu)同(tong)的。